KEEPING MY "I" ON YOU

We don't want to work on it, we just want it to work.

Once the big "I's" collide there are just a few options:
   *leave
   *conquer
   *conform
   *compromise

Marriage moves from covenant mode to contract mode.

When desires are translated into expectations we create a debt/debtor relationship.

Behind these expectations are legitimate, God-given desires...

To be:
   respected    understood
   cherished    appreciated
   accepted    desired
   loved        listened to
   taken care of

How do we know when we have shifted from desires to expectations?
*expressions of gratitude
*acts of service

Marriage is characterized by mutual care and submission, no longer male domination.

And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:21 NLT

Christian marriage is a submission competition.

HOMEWORK:
What does your spouse owe you?