PUTING YOUR "I" OUT
When desires are translated into expectations we create a debt/debtor relationship.
What does your spouse owe you? Nothing!
How do you keep the expectation box empty?
Don't throw Bible darts.
The answer to the "I" marriage is that you invite in a third party.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:21 NLT
Christian marriage is a submission competition.
Do you know what reverence means?
GOD-Put her first because I put You first.
This is a debt-free relationship.
For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22 NLT
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her. Ephesians 5:25 NLT
Why did God design marriage like that?
It's no longer an "I will if you will."
Christian marriage is where "I" gets replaced with a "J."
Maintain a perspective of "you don't owe me anything."
What do you call it when you try to control somebody's behavior?
What you choose to do with your freedom is between you and God.
There are no guarantees.
This is your only hope for God to invade the relationship and bring about change.
What do I do with my desires?
This isn't simple, isn't easy, this is God's design.