IT TAKES 3
The key and goal is to empty the expectation box.
What do you do with all this stuff in the desire box?
Options for dealing with unsatisfied desires:
*Find someone else
In the same way, you who are younger must accept the authority of the elders. And all of you, dress yourselves in humility as you relate to one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” 1 Peter 5:5 NLT
Biblical humility = freely choosing to put your deal ahead of my deal
Grace = God given power to do what you need to do.
So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. 1 Peter 5:6 NLT
Declare your dependence and announce your obedience.
Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7 NLT
"Is this important to you? Well then, it's important to me."
"The box talk."
-Take responsibility for turning your desires into expectations.
-Where do you feel pressure to live up to my expectations?
-What can I do to make our marriage more fulfilling?
-What's rewarded is repeated.
-He/she will know how important it is to you.
Great marriages are not about two big "I's." It is about us.